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THE DAY I REALISED THAT – IT IS NOT ME VS THE WORLD IT IS ME VS ME – MY ENTIRE WORLD CHANGED IN:

  • The way that I got up in the morning.
  • The way that I handle everyday life situations.
  • The way that I saw people and my personal drive, energy and focus also changed

I want to tell you today that – it is not you vs the world, it is you vs you! We are our own worst enemy. YOU are the only one that can hold you back in life and limit yourself. By you, I’m referring to your negative beliefs about yourself and the world around you.

By changing those negative beliefs, you will realise that you have the power to change your own reality. Most people think that they are struggling with something outside of themselves, that the world is against them and they have to fight against something that is out to get them.

The moment that you realise that the fight is against yourself, you will get that breakthrough that you have been searching for so long. Then, instead of trying to be better than someone else, you have to change your focus to only become a better version of yourself. A better version of who you were last week, last year, two years ago. That is the breaking point and the breakthrough you will need.

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TRAUMA RELEASE

Our trauma release service is designed to help individuals process and heal from past traumatic experiences. We use evidence-based techniques to gently guide you through the process of confronting and releasing the emotional and psychological hold that trauma can have on your life. Our goal is to empower you to regain control, find peace, and move forward with resilience.

ANXIETY RELEASE

Anxiety can be debilitating, but with the right support, it’s possible to manage and reduce its impact on your life. Our anxiety release service focuses on identifying the root causes of your anxiety, teaching you practical coping strategies, and helping you build a toolkit to navigate stressful situations with greater ease and confidence.

RELATIONSHIP/INTIMACY COACHING

Healthy relationships and intimacy are essential for a fulfilling life. This service is designed to help you strengthen your emotional connections, improve communication, and address challenges that may be impacting your relationships. Whether you’re looking to enhance intimacy or resolve conflicts, we provide a safe and supportive environment for growth and understanding.

PORNOGRAPHY ADDICTION RECOVERY

Pornography addiction can have a profound impact on personal well-being, relationships, and overall quality of life. Our specialized recovery program is designed to help individuals break free from this addiction, rebuild trust, and restore a healthy relationship with intimacy. We provide a non-judgmental, supportive space to address the underlying issues and develop strategies for lasting recovery.

 

MARRIAGE COUNSELING

Marriage counseling offers couples the opportunity to deepen their connection, resolve conflicts, and build a stronger foundation for the future. Our approach is collaborative and compassionate, focusing on effective communication, mutual respect, and shared goals. We work with couples at any stage of their relationship, from newlyweds to those facing long-term challenges.

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We will help you identify areas in your life that you can grow in. As humans, we always have room for improvement and personal growth, but many people cannot pinpoint some of the things they struggle with that hold them back in life. They just need some guidance to be able to put their finger on the problem. 

HOW WE ASSIST YOU:

  • Identify problem areas and to learn to let go
  • Elicit a state of introspection
  • Shake your internal world
  • Help you find all the root causes of the main problem(s)
  • Identify negative patterns, negative behaviours, negative habits, inner conflict, negative emotions and negative- or limiting beliefs and secondary gains

Talk therapy can help confront painful experiences, but sometimes words are not enough.

As a result of negative experiences and trauma, the brain could become wired with negative, limiting, fear-driven beliefs that stand in the way of a person’s ability to move forward and live life to its potential.

Through our beliefs, we filter and internalise our reality, so when we transform our beliefs, we transform our reality. Our emotions impact our energy, our drive, and health, so when we release negative emotions, we experience freedom, happiness, and clarity. This is the focus of our trauma release process!

Trauma is the response to a deeply distressing or disturbing event that overwhelms an individual’s ability to cope, causes feelings of helplessness, and diminishes their sense of self. It could be any event that alters your existence and impacts your wellbeing.

Trauma affects:

  • the way you interact with the world
  • the way you see yourself
  • your self-belief
  • self-esteem
  • your relationship with yourself and others.

For some people, a traumatic event can lead to depression, anxiety, living-in-fear, alcohol and drugs misuse, posttraumatic stress disorder (PTSD), as well as impacting their personal and work relationships.

While there are no objective criteria to evaluate which events will cause post-trauma symptoms, circumstances typically involve:

  • Loss of control
  • Betrayal
  • Abuse of power
  • Helplessness
  • Pain
  • Confusion
  • Loss

The longer we live, the more inevitable it is that we will experience a profound adverse event or trauma at some point. It does not discriminate, and it is pervasive throughout the world.

The event need not rise to the level of war, natural disaster, or personal assault to affect a person profoundly and alter their experiences. Traumatic situations that cause posttraumatic symptoms vary quite dramatically from person to person. Indeed, it is very subjective, and it is imperative to bear in mind that it is defined more by its response than its trigger.

After completing this therapy you will:

  • Feel empowered and in control
  • Have inner peace
  • Rewire your brain to form healthy thought patterns
  • Heightened self-awareness
  • Experience wholeness
  • Experience resilience and assertiveness

Individuals will:

  • Be less prone to triggers
  • Make better decisions and be alert/awake
  • See life as a blessing instead of a burden
  • Be able to restore relationships
  • Change negative expectations of the future
  • Stop re-enactment of the trauma

THE POSSIBLE NEGATIVE EFFECTS OF TRAUMA

  • Creates negative thought patterns that make the initial trauma worse
  • Inhibits a person’s decision-making and response/reaction time
  • Creates irrational behaviour
  • PTSD
  • Depression
  • Anxiety
  • Alcohol and substance abuse
  • Life and relationships deterioration

When we explore each of the possible negative effects of trauma further, you will come to understand why it is in your best interest to address them as they become apparent in your life.

After a traumatic event occurred, we re-enact it and imagine it happening again and again, thus making it harder to differentiate between what is truly happening now and what is not. In other words, negative experiences and trauma does not only happen once – it happens in our minds repeatedly and as a result, we keep on experiencing the event and feeling all the initial emotions continuously.

 

Consequently, a negative thought pattern is created, and new limiting beliefs are formed about us and the world. That traumatic thought pattern consumes a person, and its effects could be devastating.

 

This trauma affects not only your mind and its function, but also your physical health. Because the mind and body are connected, trauma breaks down the body and can cause disease and illness.

When trauma is not dealt with and consumes the mind, it becomes the one thing that a person thinks about most of the time. Fear and anxiety develop, and it is almost as if a person goes into survival mode to cope with what they are going through. When this happens, a person slips into their own world as if in a dreamy state. Some people report that they feel like going through life almost “robotically” in autopilot mode, and lots of things will happen around them that they do not notice at all.

That is when a person with undealt trauma starts making mistakes and missing important details. We find that people who go through trauma might react and respond a lot slower than normally – we refer to this as a loss of awareness. This can very likely lead to major financial losses or putting their own lives or the lives of others in danger.

Sadness and grief are normal emotions after a traumatic experience. Sometimes people also develop negative thoughts about themselves, other people, and the world in general. These thoughts and feelings of sadness usually lift as they start to come to terms with and recover from the traumatic event. But for some, the trauma can lead to mental health issues such as depression. Depression is a common outcome of experiencing trauma.

Could I have depression?

If negative thoughts and feelings of sadness persist, it can become hard to participate in everyday activities like going to work, seeing friends, and even getting out of bed. If this is how you are feeling, you may have developed depression. Depression is a common mental health problem that affects around 20 of South Africans and Australians – that is one in five people – who experience it at least once in their lives.

The main symptoms of depression are:

  • Little or no interest or pleasure in normal activities
  • Being tearful
  • Feeling low and miserable
  • Feeling tired all the time
  • Changes in appetite, sleep, or weight
  • Feeling worthless, helpless, and hopeless
  • Poor concentration
  • Have suicidal thoughts

Being depressed can also make it hard to come to terms with the trauma that you have endured. If you have been experiencing a number of these problems for more than two weeks, then you should talk to your local doctor or mental health professional.

Many people experience worry, fear, and anxiety during and after a traumatic event that can make them feel physically sick, terrified, stressed, or on edge. Some people may also feel disoriented – where things seem unreal.

If such feelings persist, it may mean that you have an anxiety disorder. Anxiety disorders are common. Studies show that one in 10 people experience anxiety disorders at any given time, and the number is even higher in South Africa.Common anxiety disorders after trauma are Generalised Anxiety Disorder and Panic Disorder. Some people experience anxiety alongside other problems such as posttraumatic stress disorder (PTSD), depression, or substance use.

The main symptoms of anxiety are:

  • Breathlessness
  • Racing heart
  • Sweating
  • Shaking or trembling
  • Dizziness
  • Nausea
  • Feeling restless or on edge
  • Constant worry or dread

If you have been experiencing a number of these problems for more than a few days, you should talk to your doctor or mental health professional.

After a traumatic event, people can turn to alcohol or drugs to manage the distress they feel. Alcohol and drugs may help with painful emotions and memories in the short term, but they get in the way of recovery.

When alcohol and other drug use can be problematic

When used in moderation, drinking alcohol is an acceptable, social and enjoyable part of life for many people. Moderate alcohol use means drinking no more than two standard drinks a day, and no more than four standard drinks on any single occasion, with regular alcohol-free days in between.

Some people who have experienced trauma turn to alcohol and drugs to cope with emotions and situations that they find hard to manage. In the short term, relying on alcohol or drugs can seem like a solution to painful memories or feelings of anxiety or depression. In the longer term, alcohol and drug use hinders recovery and can result in a range of harms.

Overusing alcohol and using non-prescribed drugs can worsen a person’s physical health, increase the risk of injury, affect sleep and mood, and worsen any existing mental health problems. Excessive alcohol and drug use can also seriously affect response time, personal relationships, ability to perform at work, and function from day to day.

Alcohol, drugs, and medication

The use of alcohol and other drugs can also interact with medications, particularly medications prescribed for anxiety, depression or PTSD. If you are taking medication, it is wise to consult a health professional about your alcohol consumption or drug use, particularly if you have a mental health condition. During treatment for PTSD, it may be necessary to abstain temporarily or permanently from drinking alcohol and using non-prescribed drugs.

Experiencing a traumatic event can have a significant impact on family and social/work life. It is normal to feel a range of strong emotions after trauma, but if your emotions remain intense and are causing problems, it is a good idea to seek some help.

Managing emotions

It is important to remember that there is no ‘right’ or expected way to respond to trauma, and people can react in many ways. A person might become irritable with others, particularly family members. While anger is a common reaction to trauma, it can have a serious impact on their relationships and family life if a person continues to feel angrier than usual a couple of weeks after the traumatic event.

Grief is also common after trauma and includes a wide range of feelings, thoughts, and behaviours that are reactions to an experience of loss. While we usually associate grief with the loss of a loved one, the emotion is no different when dealing with the loss of something such as one’s health or home. Despair or loneliness are other common feelings following the loss..

Sometimes feelings can become so intense or distressing that the person finds it difficult to manage. If emotions are overwhelming and don’t improve over time, it can impact a person’s ability to work, their relationships with others, and their ability to function in their day-to-day life. If emotions remain intense and are causing problems, it could mean that a mental health problem is developing. If this happens, it is a good idea to see a GP for advice, and possibly accept treatment.

Relationships

Following a traumatic event, the emotional distress experienced can make it difficult to relate to other people. This might mean that a person withdraws from family and friends, stops attending social activities, becomes overprotective, or has difficulty expressing or managing emotions.

Work

Returning to work after a traumatic event can be difficult but getting back to your usual routine will help you to feel that your life is getting back on track. A health practitioner can provide information on where to find the support you need. Such support is important even if the problem seems mild at the time. It is generally easier to prevent a problem from getting worse than trying to manage it once it starts having a significant impact on your life.

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